I had an acquaintance recently tell me that his son ruined his DVD player by sticking coins into it. My question here is: How does his two-year-old child have access to coins and to his DVD player? My question to him was: “So, who runs your household?” His answer: “My children.” They are two and seven years old.
The reason human children have parents for the first 18 years of their lives is to have someone to guide them into doing the right thing. It seems nowadays parents are afraid to, or don’t know how to, discipline their children. They all seem to be vying in a popularity contest and/or fearful of their own children.
Why is that? How did this come to be?
Another thing being blamed for teenage violence (or violence in general) is TV. Well, I watched Roller Derby, wrestling, cowboy movies where people got shot and the most violent programming of all, cartoons. I never considered shooting someone, poking them in the eye or shoving them across a roller rink. I knew the difference between real life and what I saw on TV. Are children thinking this stuff is real? (Wouldn’t surprise me as supposedly sane women write to doctors on soap operas thinking they are real.) And, who has control of the remote anyway?
How have our thinking, rationalizing and intelligence become so askew?
My feeling is drugs (and no, I don’t mean illegal drugs although they are a problem also) and lack of adequate nutrition. What I mean is caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, sugar, fluoride and aspartame.
Let’s begin with caffeine. Caffeine is a drug. Caffeine is addicting. “It is the most prevalently used stimulant in the world.” It makes the adrenals and the heart work overtime. It puts people into a “fight of flight” mode (notice the word “fight”). Not long after having some caffeine, whether in chocolate, soda, tea or coffee, the users crash and need another fix.
This stimulating drug plays havoc with the nervous system creating anxiety, nervousness, insomnia and moodiness. Many children who have been diagnosed as hyperactive, have diets rich in caffeine through chocolate in cookies, candy, cocoa and soda. (1) I’ve been in a laundromat and seen children stop there for candy and soda on their way to school. Is it any wonder why children, including teens cannot sit still in a classroom?
The next most abused substance — or rather, abusive substance — is sugar. When sugar is ingested, it bypasses the usual system of digestion and passes directly into the bloodstream shocking the stomach and the pancreas. This substance is highly addicting. Its excess use has been known to lead to (amongst other things), nervousness, violence, paranoia, irritability, self-pity and loss of memory and concentration.